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I very much enjoyed this and thought that a simple like on the post was not sufficient.

I love debate, too. I’m a little too harmony-oriented to toss topic grenades into a conversation, but I know people who do do this and I usually enjoy the conversations that result. I don’t enjoy it as much when people are obviously stirring the pot and testing out debate tactics, and are not interested in learning something new out of the debate (a not infrequent occurrence in my extended family!). I do enjoy it when people stir the pot and playing devil’s advocate, but do it because they want to learn and are open to being wrong.

Question: do you and your husband some signal to indicate when something is serious and not just a topic grenade that one of you is throwing into a conversation?

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